Article Written by: Debbie Stokes
So often, we imagine what it would be like to live the life we want. But for so many of us, it’s just a dream. In fact, we’ve experienced: unfulfilled promises to ourselves, distorted hope, and blurred visions of how to make it happen; in which most times, it never does. Then, as time goes by, our imagination becomes faded memories of what could have been. For most, the images we imagined were: To live in the house of our dreams, to surround ourselves with only the people we love and who love us, to do the type of work that brings us joy and satisfaction, to make the amount of money we wanted to make with no money problems, to help people whenever we wanted, to be in good health, to be spiritually connected, and to call our own shots. But as I said, for most of us, those things were just wishful thinking. Instead, we have learned to settle in life, to deal with what comes our way with the hopes of, maybe one day, hitting the lottery or some other far-fetched idea.
Literally, we have settled so much that we believe we can’t do better nor do we want to do better; so, we stay in our comfortable space… that good old comfort zone. You know, the place where hopes and dreams are destroyed and held hostage. The place where fear takes over and manipulates our thoughts and actions. The place where negativity dwells and you are looked at as different or frowned upon, if you sway away from the norm and from what others think about you and what you do. The worst part is… you listen to what others think of you, and to their opinions of what you should or shouldn’t do. Sadly, their words have amassed power in your life, even though they have never done or wanted to do anything in their lives. So many of us should learn and effectively say these words to people who are toxic to our life and our dreams. Tell them to SHUT UP, and then, remove them or yourself from that space. Another thing, you have to find people who are doing what you like and learn from and connect with them. When two or more are on one accord, great things can happen; which can lead to growth and change in your life, preparing you for your dream. So, up your inner circle to the people who feed you mentally, and who believe in where you are trying to go. When you can take control of your thoughts, direction in life, and actions, you can truly begin to move towards living the life you want or dream.
Listen to actress Taja V. Simpson interview, as she talks about living the life she dreams and how you can, too.
After watching Taja’s interview, I hope you are inspired to “move” and to “be the person you want to be.” It all starts with you. First, you have to visualize what you want to do or who you want to be. Secondly, you have to believe it can happen. Thirdly, you have to take the necessary steps to move towards that thing you want. Next, don’t let anybody stand in your way. Lastly, be persistent until you achieve it.
Think about life like it’s a car, and you are the driver. Understand that where, when, and how you drive determines the kind of life you live and where you end up. So, take charge of your car and go in the direction you want to go, so you can live the life you want and be the person you want to be. Yes, there will be roadblocks… but go for it anyway! Yes, you will have doubts… but you can do it! Yes, you may feel insecure… but I believe in you! Now, go make magic happen, and live the life of your dreams and the life you deserve. It’s all up to you!
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